How do you know if you're in love?

long-term relationship

Falling in love is a unique and powerful emotional experience for everyone. But we also need to tease out some other questions that may arise along the way: in addition to being attracted to each other, will the person you fall in love with support you, respect you, understand you, and care for you? Is this person willing to talk to you and value what you care about? If you're lucky enough to put the time and effort into getting to know each other before the relationship even begins, you'll be rewarded. Your mutual attraction will most likely lead to a more stable and relaxed long-term relationship.

Do you suddenly start doing something new?

  • When people fall in love, they tend to step out of their old habits and activities and start to learn something new that the other person likes. You may find yourself trying new dishes,trying new things like sports, fishing, card games etc. People whom fall in love often report that they have grown in this area of extending their self-concept.
  • Have you been feeling stressed lately?

  • Although falling in love with someone is a good thing, many empirical data shows those individuals whom fall in love are positively correlated with higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol So if you've been feeling anxious, nervous, and wary lately, it's usually a normal reaction to spend a lot of time with someone you value and care about.
  • Do you particularly want to be with this person?

  • Process from being singled to falling in love: evidence suggests that the parts of the brain that produces dopamine are active in the early stages of love. Neuroscientist believe that these brain regions are to some extent the brain's “reward system”, which makes people full of positively and motivation. Once a couple has been together for a while, the levels of these hormones start to drop, while different areas of the brain become more active, and these areas are more associated with attachment.
  • How strong are your emotions?

  • Individuals with anxious attachment style (that is those who are not confident enough in relationships and tend to self-doubt) will experience high intensity of passion and nervous when love comes. If you don't seem to feel this way, it doesn't necessarily mean you don't love someone -- everyone experiences love differently. In fact, individuals with avoidant attachment styles experience much lower levels of emotional intensity when they fall in love.
  • Do you often fall in love with others?

  • If you find yourself regularly falling in love, it's likely that you've confused feelings of attraction with feeling of love. Explained from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, love and sex are related: women choose partner will be more cautious and carefuller than men, because their investment and risk is to be much higher than the male. For men, with more women also means that can reproduce more offspring, which is relatively in evolutionary advantage.
  • Do you really want to say "I love you" to your partner?

  • I love you” is an absolutely obvious signal that some people has a harder time saying those three words. Although people may wonder whether women were the first to speak out, psychological research on heterosexuality once again shows that men tend to be the first to speak out, and they fall in love more quickly. Do you invest more and more in this person? The most obvious indicator of the quality of a couple's relationship is commitment -- their willingness to invest spare time, materials, energy, emotions, etc., in the relationship. Those who fall in love tend to increase their commitment to another person and to connect their lives in ways that increase their sense of stability and commitment (in other words, a willingness to spend more time with each other, give something to each other, etc.).
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